This is an issue that has been bothering me for forever and I don't know if it's going on because people are oblivious or because they jump to conclusions.
Either way, here we go!
I've seen countless times in magazines, on youtube, on tumblr, on anything that people hate when others cannot take a compliment. Typically it is regarding how a girl cannot take a compliment from a guy, but this sort of thing works both ways.
For the sake of this post, I'm going to use the situation of a boy complimenting a girl just so nothing gets confusing.
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A boy tells a girl she looks pretty, the girl says "no, I don't think so" the boy automatically thinks she's just looking for another compliment, fishing for compliments, and proceeds to think the girl is full of it.
Same thing happens if a girl posts a picture online saying she doesn't look her best. People jump to the conclusion she is fishing for compliments.
Then this happens:
No.
I know I cannot speak for everyone which means that everyone is different. But this sort of thing makes me sick. YOU CANNOT JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS.
Like I said, everyone is different, but I'm confident I am not alone when I say it isn't always about not taking a compliment or about looking for more compliments.
There is a whole other level to this that most people don't realize.
The girl may not see what you see.
You tell a girl she rocks, she says she doesn't really, that DOES NOT ALWAYS mean she wants you to continue complimenting her or that she already knew she rocked.
Sometimes it means that she does not see it within herself, therefore she cannot believe anyone would think she rocks.
I speak from experience and can give many real life examples:
A kid walks up to me and says I look nice today. My eyes widen, I panic for a second because I never would have thought someone would say something like that, and I stutter a bit because I can't think of anything to say.
The kid either repeats himself because he thinks I want to hear it again or he walks away thinking why can't I take a simple compliment.
I panic because I don't think I look nice so I am in disbelief when someone tells me I look okay.
Got it?
It's not that complicated.
Sure, girls and boys go out there looking specifically for compliments, but sometimes they can't take a compliment simply because they are caught off guard because they don't see what the other person sees.
I hope this helped explain why some of us out there cannot take a compliment.
It's not because we're looking for more, it's because we don't see it.
This being said, I want to tell everyone out there that they are beautiful inside and out and I mean it. I really do.
Also- this only applies to some people. Don't go around jumping to conclusions. That's bad. Very bad.
p.s.
If any of you reading this are like me, when someone compliments you and you have no idea how to react, just say "thank you" and smile. It's easy! The complimenter didn't have to compliment you, therefore they are being sincere so DO NOT OVER THINK IT. Just say thank you :)
Rock on.
